Before the bride officially says “I do,” there are plenty of pre-wedding celebrations to mark her transition into married life. While many of these events include family and friends of all ages, the bachelorette party is all about the bride and her closest crew celebrating her big day. In the past, this might’ve meant a simple dinner and bar-hopping with a few friends. But these days, more brides are opting for dreamy destination getaways, turning the party into a full weekend trip with their favorite people.
According to Abbie Clinton, CEO and owner of bachelorette planning company Got Your Bash, the average cost per person for a three-night bachelorette party is around $1,000—not including flights. And thanks to social media, these pre-wedding celebrations are only getting pricier, Clinton says. While destination parties tend to be the most expensive (flights, hotels, and rental cars add up fast), even a single night out—complete with dinner, drinks, transportation, and a new outfit—can still put a dent in your wallet. So whether you’re the bride or an invited guest, you might be wondering: Who actually pays for the bachelorette party?
We asked Clinton to break it down. Here’s who covers what.
Who Pays for the Bachelorette Party?
While most groups figure out a system that works for them, who pays ultimately depends on the location.
Who Pays for a Local Bachelorette Party?
If it’s a one-night celebration rather than a weekend trip, the bridesmaids and other guests typically cover their own expenses—plus the bride’s share for dinner, drinks, and activities.
Who Pays for a Destination Bachelorette Party?
For multi-day trips—whether it’s San Diego or Puerto Rico—costs get a little more complicated. Travel, hotels, meals, and activities add up fast. Usually, the host and guests pay their own way, but not the bride’s expenses. “As a bride, if you’re expecting your guests to travel far, you should help with extra costs,” Clinton says.
The bride should cover her own flight and lodging. Sometimes, she might even chip in to ease the financial load for her friends. “As a destination bachelorette bride myself, I helped with lodging because I was so grateful my guests traveled for me,” Clinton shares. She might also give small gifts as a thank-you.
From there, the group decides what else they want to cover. For example, the maid of honor might decorate the bride’s hotel room, or the group could treat her to dinner one night. But for most outings, the bride pays her own way.
How to Handle Bachelorette Party Finances
The planner (usually the maid of honor) handles the budget. If that’s you, here’s how to manage the money smoothly.
1. Consult the Group
Before locking in a destination, hotel, or activities, talk budget with everyone on the guest list. Since everyone’s contributing, they should be comfortable with the final cost. Instead of a group chat (which might sway opinions), Clinton suggests speaking to each person privately. “Send out an anonymous poll asking what everyone’s comfortable spending before planning,” she advises.
2. Set a Realistic Budget
After gathering everyone’s input, set a budget that works for all. Share the final number so guests can decide if they can attend. “Be totally transparent from the start,” Clinton says. Once you have a confirmed headcount, book accommodations and activities.
3. Make the Payments
As the host, you’ll handle payments—hotels, group activities, etc. Many hosts put everything on their card and have guests pay them back via Venmo or Splitwise afterward.
4. Track Expenses
Keep tabs on every cost, from pre-booked events to on-the-go purchases. “Track what’s coming in and going out,” Clinton says. Save receipts and log everything in a spreadsheet.
3 Ways to Save Money on the Bachelorette Party
A bachelorette party doesn’t have to break the bank. Clinton shares her top money-saving tips.
1. Choose Affordable Lodging
Skip the pricey resort and go for a budget-friendly Airbnb. To save even more, book directly through the rental company instead of Airbnb to avoid extra fees.
2. Mix in Free or Cheap Activities
If the bride wants splurge-worthy treats like spa days, balance them with low-cost options—hikes, picnics, or window shopping. Make big-ticket activities optional so guests can bow out if needed.
3. Try a Non-Traditional Option
Multi-day trips are the most expensive, so consider a cheaper alternative—a movie night at home, a pottery class, or a group cooking session.